After school today, I taught some voice lessons.  I do this almost every day of the week.  It's a helpful supplement to our family income and it's an enjoyable chance to work with a student in a more focused way than I am able to when I am teaching a class.

One of my students today was so excited because a friend had taught her how to play "Heart and Soul" on the piano.  She wanted to show me and while I watched her, I noticed the look of sheer delight and joy on her face.  She sincerely found great joy in what she was doing.

That's one of the reasons I teach--because I like to see those moments when the joy of understanding or comprehension flashes on a face.

Learning, especially in the areas I teach, should be joyful.  It should be exciting.

Here's the paradox, though, and the great dilemma.  True joy comes only when something has been mastered or understood.  And this understanding comes only after practice and work.  This often requires nagging and reminding and disciplining. If I let my students do only what they want, they will experience a lot of mediocrity, but no real joy. 

So, for my students to experience the joy, I have to be strict with them sometimes.  I have to push them and coax them and correct them.  Sometimes this seems to take the joy out of it.

As a teacher, then I face these questions: how do I balance rigor and joy?  Strictness and fun?  Discovery and exploration with practice and precision?  These are especially relevant when dealing with middle school students.

It's the same for parents, I think.  I don't claim that these thoughts are original or novel.  Just what I'm thinking about at the moment.

Are there larger implications here?  Something this might tell us about the nature of God and why He does some of the things He does?
 


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05/05/2010 11:47pm

Definitely excellent food for thought, tonight, Braden.

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05/05/2010 11:50pm

I completely agree! I find this to be true not only with my piano students but teaching my kids as well. It's harder but worth it!

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05/05/2010 11:58pm

Having spent my entire adult life teaching in one capacity or another, I completely get this. I have found that things work best when there is a balance: Student brings his best effort to the studio, and I bring my most encouraging and optimistic attitude. I'm a shameless cheerleader; I'll celebrate counting a single measure correctly, or singing a high note with support and conviction, as enthusiastically as I would winning a scholarship or acing a competition. At the same time, though, I have only a limited amount of patience for laziness or apathy. And I can't cheer for something that doesn't happen. Effort is rewarded; whining is not.

And yes, I think that's how our Heavenly Father teaches us.

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05/06/2010 12:01am

As you can imagine, then, I can't even begin to tell you how hard it is to teach Gospel Doctrine and Institute to a room full of people who mostly want to be entertained. Criminy, peeps, think of what we could learn together if you'd just come to class prepared!

And now I'm done. F'real.

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05/06/2010 2:14am

Oh that is exactly the dilemma that made me not want to become a school teacher!! Well, that, and that it would have been too exhausting. I love kids, but I don't enjoy the discipline part at all. I am glad you can teach something you love and see the joy it brings others, but I am sure it is wearying sometimes. Very true about the nature of God. Beautiful thought.

Thanks for your kind comments on my blog! I don't knit but maybe I should take that up. ;) Oh - and I am not reading the chapters yet... I want to wait until I have the whole book in my hands! Maybe I'll read a taste right before it comes, but I hate waiting between things. :)

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05/06/2010 8:07am

It is a hard balance, but you're right, one has to learn the benefit of making an effort and learning to do something well. If we keep kids satisfied with half heartedness, we've really done a disservice.

Not so easy to take when it is God in our lives, teaching us real joy. But the long run benefits are wonderful. Nice reminder, thanks.

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05/06/2010 12:15pm

This is my favorite part of teaching. When they finally get it, after lots of hard work. It's exciting to see the joy it brings.

I find myself being a lot harder on the students I know have the greatest potential as singers. I shock myself sometimes at how ruthless I am with them, but in the end they really glow.

Conversely, like DeNae, I try to be as encouraging as possible when any little thing is going well. I do love teaching privately because of this whole paradox...it just doesn't happen quite the same way in a big group.

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05/06/2010 3:01pm

I feel like I'm always walking a fine line between all of those things and always stepping on one side or the other rather than staying balanced.
It's definitely a learning process. One Heavenly Father has mastered.
Someday right?

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Jo
05/06/2010 11:47pm

Great thoughts, Braden. That really made me think. I love the insight about how Heavenly Father may be doing something similar. Pretty cool!

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05/07/2010 9:03am

DeNae and I did realize (while we were at the writer's conference) that there are way too many teachers who are more concerned about entertaining than teaching. I think when you're passionate about something then even the hard work and rigor is joyful and fulfilling. The journey is the joy. You devour every new piece of information and challenge and mastering the art brings you enormous satisfaction.

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Melanie J
05/07/2010 2:34pm

As a former middle school teacher myself, I totally hear you on this. It turns out I'm a decent entertainer but I had to get my kids to understand that I wasn't going to put on a show for them all time because the more important part of what we did was work and that could be FUN even when I wasn't putting on a sparkle show. It took a month or two of school every year, but they eventually figured it out.

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05/07/2010 9:50pm

This is a good one. I was talking with a kid @ Sams Club today and realized I graduated closer to his mom's age then his. "Back in 1990" I heard
myself say..

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