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Middle School Mondays: The Graduation Speech I'd Like to Give

5/29/2012

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It is the season of commencements, of graduations and movings-on. The time of the year when we gather to wish graduates the best and express our pride in their accomplishments as well as our hope in their future. Over the years, I've attended a number of commencement exercises and I've had a little speech that I wish I could give. So, here it is.

Dear Graduates, Faculty, Parents, Honored Guests:

Today we are celebrating the fact that you are graduating, moving on. It is appropriate that we do so because you have worked hard to get to this point. But I would like to make an important distinction. Today, we are not celebrating you. By that, I mean that we are not celebrating you just because you are wonderful and deserve a ceremony and party. Rather, we are celebrating your choices. You made choices that brought you here today. You worked and struggled and acheived. Had you not made those choices, had you not done the work, you would not be here.

I make this point because it is an important one for your future happiness and well-being. It is easy when we are young to think the world revolves around us. We think this because, in many ways, it is true. If we are blessed, then we have parents who take care of us, who order their lives in such a way as to see that our needs and wants are met and fulfilled. If we are blessed, then we have gone to a school where our needs are addressed. Skilled teachers and other specialists have spent untold hours trying to figure out how to make content appealing to us. They have worked to interest us, to excite us about learning and to help us master a skill or content. 

But it is important to understand that teachers and parents do this because they love us and because it is their job. It is why they exist. 

The rest of the world, however, is very different. The older you get, the less you will be rewarded simply because you are wonderful, a unique individual. The older you get, the fewer trophies there will be for coming in fifth or fourth. Or even third. The older you get, there will be a sharp decrease in the number of people who order their life around you. In fact, you will be one of those who is expected to order your life around others. Remember this: after today, it's not about you. To the extent you think it is and try to make it so, you will be unhappy and will squander your precious energy. It's really not about you. 

This is not a bad thing. Not at all. To the contrary. You will find that real happiness in life comes from sacrificing your own wants to make someone else happy. You will find that real happiness in life comes from investing yourself in relationships and taking care of other people more than you worry about yourself. 

You will find that lasting satisfaction is linked inextricably to what you earn and achieve, not what you are given. You will find that there are fundamental laws of nature that cannot be overturned, no matter how much you smile, give puppy-dog looks, or even cry. Work will bring rewards that nothing else will. Real success and meaningful achievement must be earned.

The longer you live, what you meant to do will often matter less than what you did. You will be judged on your actions and not your motives. 

Life will not be fair. Don't waste your energy complaining about that. Life will be hard. Don't be surprised when it is difficult beyond anything you imagined. There will be times when your dreams seem to fade to ash, when your heart feels like it will be wrenched from your chest, and when you don't think you'll ever be happy again.

While your situation is unique, these feelings are not. These are the common lot of humanity, and they are often the motivating factors that push us to change our lives--and sometimes the world around us. 

Don't be afraid of hard work. Be afraid of laziness and entitlement. Don't be afraid of failure. Be afraid to never try. Don't be afraid of sadness and hurt. Be afraid not to care. Don't be afraid of making sacrifices. Be afraid of having nothing worth sacrificing for. Don't be afraid of being overshadowed by others who are brighter, faster, or better at whatever. Be afraid of not pushing yourself. Don't be afraid of not achieving as much as someone else. Be afraid of not achieving all you can--and be very, very afraid of jealousy and envy. These two traits will conspire to make sure you never have a happy day for the rest of your life. 

Learn to listen to people who are older and wiser than you. It is a fairly recent conceit to honor young people for nothing more than being young and not as slow, fat, and tired as the rest of us. For thousands of years, humans were solicitous of and attentive to their elders--those who had walked the same paths and climbed the same mountains and lived to tell about it.

As most of us get older, we realize our parents were right about 95% of what they told us. We realize that the other 5% really didn't matter all that much. 

Life can be good. It can be very good--beautiful, enriching, and ennobling. You can be happy even in imperfect circumstances. Your futures can be bright without them being perfect. You can be happy without having everything you want. You can be successful in spite of challenges and failures. 

Don't try to avoid the storms. Learn to ride them out. Don't expend your energy trying to get around the eternal verities of life. Learn how to work with them. Don't seek the easy way--grow strong enough to take the road is it, not how you wish it would be. Life if the best preparation for life. Don't wish it away. Savor it. Love your family. Work hard. Hang on when it gets rough. 
It will get better. And you will too.

Good luck and may God bless you. 



9 Comments
Shayna Humphrey
5/29/2012 12:40:26 pm

Bravo! Bravo! Bravo! This piece will be required reading in our house.

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Braden
5/29/2012 12:48:10 pm

Thank you, Shayna. I rather suspect that C and C will be incredibly successful in life.

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U suck Dick
5/13/2014 12:39:41 pm

This sucks dick

Jonathan Langford link
6/5/2012 04:13:32 am

Very good. I'm planning to print this out and share it with my 17-year-old, at least.

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Braden
6/5/2012 06:36:35 am

Thank you, Jonathan. I hope your 17 year old enjoys (or at least benefits from) it!

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Linda Flores link
5/23/2013 02:12:34 pm

Hi Braden, My name is Linda. I'm an 8th grader and while I was struggling writing my speech for my graduation on June 7, I decided tosearch random ones on Google and I found yours Thank God <3 Haha . I got chosen to be this years Speech person in our graduation . I was wondering if you can help me? I honestly have no clue . I have stage fright :/ and I'm having trouble with my speech . And I honestly loved your speech and I would love it if you could please help me . My middle school graduation is in two weeks, June 7 . I'm running out of time .

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Braden
5/24/2013 04:02:10 pm

Hi Linda, I would be very happy to help you! However, I don't have any contact information for you. If you can email me directly at braden@bradenbell.com I'll be happy to provide any assistance I can.

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Linda Harrington
6/2/2013 09:43:43 pm

Hey Braden, wow book 3 and I can say I knew you back when. Hey question. If I were to send you the money for them would you autograph and send (or bring if your coming my way) copies of all your books? My sister lost my copy of the first book. Obviously your John Hancock will be very valuable one day. I can put it with one from the LT. Gov. of Utah (If I can get his, You know what I mean.) Love you and would love to see you and the family if ever we are in the same state at the same time. Chuck said Hi.

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mari
5/16/2014 01:21:07 pm

great

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